Affirmations have been a part of my life since 1986 when I did a retreat at the Cenacle Retreat Center and learned the scriptural basis for using the spoken word. “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7 Since then, I have seen affirmations “work” and “not work.” Visualization can make them more effective – sometimes. Another philosophy says do not be attached to the outcome. Something that seems true to me – when we affirm something, we align with it energetically. I like to think that, if our will is aligned with Divine Will, it manifests. If it doesn’t show up exactly as we wanted it to – well, that was not part of the Divine Plan. Looking from the heart – how do we interpret the “evidence” of whether or not it manifested? Here is an example. In 1998, I had been married for six years and left my law firm job to be primary parent to our three-year-old son. Looking for part-time teaching work, one of the applications had an essay question: Describe your vision of how you’d like your life to be.

In the beloved classic, A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge travels to his past, to another person's present and to one of his futures. Not "THE" future - "A" future. After seeing the consequences of his actions, the consequences of the default way he had been operating, Scrooge decides to change. The story inspires us because he wakes up to how his behavior influences the lives of others. He releases the old way of being and embraces a new way. People flock by the hundreds to see productions of A Christmas Carol this time of year. I've seen it several times and still appreciate the magic of transformation. It is ART. And it has a scientific basis. Quantum field theory says that there are always multiple futures. I love Brian Greene and recommend watching The Elegant Universe on PBS based on his book of the same title. More and more people acknowledge the possibility that we live in a multi-verse, not a universe.

In 1925, during the famous Scopes Monkey Trial that took place in Tennessee, two famous lawyers, Clarence Darrow and William Jennings Bryan, got philosophical. Bryan once said: "I have observed the power of the watermelon seed. It has the power of drawing from the ground and through itself 200,000 times its weight. When you can tell me how it takes this material and, out of it, colors an outside surface beyond the imitation of art and then forms inside of it a white rind and within that again a red heart, thickly inlaid with black seeds, each one which in turn is capable of drawing through itself 200,000 times its weight - when you can explain to me the mystery of a watermelon, you can ask me to explain the mystery of God." The trial and the quote point to a tension between the "scientific objective" world and the "mysterious spiritual" world.

Spring 2020 Death = the End of a Cycle Please don't take this the wrong way but... everything alive eventually dies. We can use death as the impetus to honor life. Our planet operates on cycles within cycles within cycles. The Earth goes around the sun. The moon goes around the Earth. We breathe in and out constantly. Blood circulates through the circulatory system. I could go on and on with examples but I think you get what I mean. COVID-19 has killed our way of life. However you viewed life and experienced it before, it has fundamentally changed. Without enough test kits, people are living in fear. The lack of clear information has led people to panic and hoard. The chaos has settled down a bit where I live as local leaders work to keep communities informed and new voices emerge to bring us together. I have highlighted some of these resources below.

Spring 2018 Valuing Freedom Have you heard of the "freedom-closeness dilemma"? In astrology, it's the Leo-Aquarius polarity. Leo representing the King, the status quo, security. When a society is stable, its members feel safe. Rules create clear boundaries. Within the boundaries of a healthy monarchy, there is lots of freedom. Yet the boundaries represent the limits. If a society/ culture/ kingdom become tyrannical, the Rebel will emerge. This archetype represents discontent, innovation, risk-taking action. Throwing off the shackles makes for good theater. Consider Les Miserables, Hamilton, even The Little Mermaid. Looking at this on the personal level... As people, we grow. We mature. We change. One of our very basic survival needs includes being connected- to feel close to other humans. And yet, if that closeness robs us of our freedom, we will rebel. (Often, this dynamic plays out as a decision to get divorced. I see it all the time.)

Fall 2017 The Legacy of Story "Who lives? Who dies? Who tells your story?" - Lin-Manuel Miranda in Hamilton, An American Musical Legacies take different forms... Financial legacy- leaving money to children or to charity- can easily be identified. Culturally, we take the passing of land and wealth through generations as a given. Artistic legacy- when a person's self-expression, be it painting, dancing, singing, or performing, influences others and inspires further development of beauty- also gets recognized. Professional legacy- when a person makes a mark on their field. As President of the Collaborative Law Institute of Illinois ("CLII") this year, I hope that I have a bit of a legacy.

October 2016 Breadwinners & Caregivers Inside of me lives the Breadwinner and the Caregiver, two archetypes. Given the middle class suburban community I was brought up in, I connect my dad to the Breadwinner and my mom to the Caregiver. Harkening back to the hunter-gatherer times, Dad did his part to go out into the world- a lawyer who worked hard to put a roof over our heads, food on the table, new clothes, vacations, and college educations. Although he was a caring man, he did not concern himself with day-to-day tasks that kept our house functional. Harkening back to the hunter-gatherer times, Dad did his part to go out into the world- a lawyer who worked hard to put a roof over our heads, food on the table, new clothes, vacations, and college educations. Although he was a caring man, he did not concern himself with day-to-day tasks that kept our house functional.

December 2015 Who Journals? In fourth grade, I got my first diary, a 4" x 6" hard book with a buckle lock and a pretty pink and yellow cover. In seventh grade, I had so much to say that I used sheets of notebook paper - 3 to 6 per day - to chronicle every detail. "Mary and I were going to go to White Hen with Sue but her brother came home so we walked over to Ann's house instead." A few months ago my mother found the pages while cleaning out a closet. As I grew up, my journaling activities got more mature. I have taken workshops and used journals in a variety of ways. So far, seventeen bound books are filled with "me writing to myself." I say that because - going back and reading them - many entries consist of a dialogue between what some would call my higher Self and me. Another tradition might label one of the speakers as my "ego." Journaling can be simple - just writing down what happened during the day or keeping a gratitude journal . It can be complex - check out Ira Progoff's Intensive Journal method. His methodology includes written dialogue, as well as expanding on meaningful images.

May 11, 2018 This morning, I decided to come from JOY and DELIGHT. The day was great. Let’s go back to yesterday – I work as a Collaborative Lawyer. As such, I help divorcing people transition with dignity and respect. I get to work with other professionals who share the same commitment to transparency and healing. Usually, I love my job. Let’s go back to yesterday – I work as a Collaborative Lawyer. As such, I help divorcing people transition with dignity and respect. I get to work with other professionals who share the same commitment to transparency and healing. Usually, I love my job.